So be your own best friend. Now, I am not saying there is a foolproof way to stop feeling the pain emotional and physical of betrayal. I'm going to be honest with you. What type of marriages survive infidelity? But he never did, so he doesn't care enough. It helps you to process the pain when you realize there is nothing personal in his actions towards you, his behavior has nothing to do with you, he would have behaved like that no matter with whom he is involved.
Hell, it's probably a good lesson that just because something upsets you it doesn't necessarily mean it's bad. It felt like that trust had been broken. However, this does not mean your situation is hopeless. And one way to accomplish that is through an Absurdity Rant. But at some point he would surely have betrayed your trust. We'd always felt like a team.
The first time I went off with the other man, I left my husband because we had always agreed that if we ever wanted to be with someone else, we would end it before hand instead of cheating. I don't blame him at all for that. Reading your story will help others who are in similar situation, facing the pain due to betrayal and cheating. It is natural to blame oneself when something like this happens. Even though I know you still carry the memory of betrayal in your heart, what shines through from your letter is that you are already well on the way towards full recovery. Then in the next breath he tells me I pushed him to the edge and wants out. In one breath he was trying to tell me that he was not in love with this other woman, it was just the sex they shared.
We had been living overseas. Do men who leave their wives after all that time regret it? Like he didn't leave because he was legemitly in love with another woman but because he wanted to do something exciting and adventurous and sexy. Volunteer, take a solo or group vacation, join a new gym, take a night class, join a support group, check out a new social club, quit your job, go back to school. He never brought this up till many more emails. I still love my husband. In the mean time i decided to lose the excess weight i gained during pregnancy to look much more pretty, as my husband would always say he likes thin girls with long hairs etc. Should I have let Phillip come home when he had asked to try again? My H has been patient when I asked questions.
I wish people had to have some sort of license to have kids. Who was going to want to date me and my two kids? My H realizes the destruction that he heaped out on us. I'm not asking this to be mean, but he forgave you the first time and you cheated on him again, why do you think that you should get another mulligan? I will never forget his pasty complexion when he was forced to admit his year-long affair with a waitress. They gave me hope that one day i will get over this and live a happy life. Now, after 21 years I recently met my dad's new wife, the one he left my mom for.
Me and my sister also cut allties with his side of the family and have lived with our mom the whole time. Well my mama called me selfish, but I told her a selfish person would have not tolerated it so long. Here are seven tips on how to cope when your husband walks out on your marriage. Link to the previous post, which cannot be deleted or removed. I do not expect everyone to be supportive on this thread. Any sneaky behaviour will be misinterpreted as you saw. How could he possibly trust you again? It's been hard but we are managing.
She just wants me to Get over it. I went to consult a psychologist. The trust in you has gone. To read more personal stories of life with narcissistic spouse, go to section. The basis of the life we have known gets destroyed in a blink of an eye and we are being thrown into a deep sadness, anxiety and depression literally overnight. Truth time: If the scenario was reversed and he was the one that cheated on you twice. My family of course replied that it's impossible to carry on as if we don't know.
But I didn't want to tell anyone else until I decided what to do. He was calm, patient and attentive. Your husband should be a part of that. Stupid me in believing we had something special. Time has passed and I have full custody of the children. We were set up on a blind date by a mutual friend and after exchanging emails and talking on the phone — unusual in this era of dating — we got together for a drink one night after work. Honestly, do you think you deserve a 3rd chance? She has much experience in life, she is your mother and she loves you, she will understand and support you, as do your friends.
The betrayal is one that takes the wind out of you. He was only thinking of himself, he did not move back for your sake. Suddenly I hated the big one of us kissing while our kids smiled, perched on our backs. What is one to do with all those feelings that are sometimes in conflict with each other. He was beside me comforting me for 10 long hours of work. I don't know what to do next.