Commenting Rules Don't be a jerk, attacking other users will get your comments removed and repeatedly doing it will lead to a ban. We alchaholics for what ever reason could not love ourselves. Is this familiar to anyone or should I grow up and deal with it? My being here with him is not working. He told me he would begin a taper. I almost called the wedding off. I cannot risk that happening with any of my kiddos. Since Monday I know he has gone on a heavy binge, He will message me, his phone is turned off.
Just remember, Martyrs only get one thing in life…. I will love myself and seek happiness in something other than a relationship for now. But he was a beer alcoholic, drank at least a six pack every night until bedtime, drank all day on the weekends and when the beer was gone would drink any alcohol he could get his hands on. All went well for 6 months… we got engaged and a month later he went on another rampage… as we speak its tuesday…. I probably cried every day for a month at least.
The damage is immense and I am broken hearted for all of you. Feel guilty eating an extra piece of cake and not leaving behind a drunken mess. It has put some sanity back into my life as I plan my exit. And he likes it…he also is a closet smoker which has never gone over well…definitely has struggled with an addictive personality… But I think I need to branch out and include some more family members with our issue…his mother knows and has confronted him…his response? I really cant wait for him to die…I would leave except that I am unwilling to share half of my hard earned assets with the man. You either live a life of hell or you get the hell out of there. I am in everyone of them. I guess I am just looking for guidance as this is the only reason I stay, to protect my children.
All it ends up doing is hurting yourself more. We all are suffering for him. All very platonic, I am sure. You just have to evaluate whether staying with him is worth these issues or not. He has admitted to a drinking problem but I have never been involved with an alcoholic and did not realize the severity of his disease.
He goes on these binges, 2 bottles of whisky a night. It could be because you don't drink or get drunk yourself, or maybe you fear that he may hurt himself when drunk again, implying that you don't drink. He always had an excuse to work late, then he would start lying about where he was and what he was doing just so he could drink…. At least now I can leave n not have to put up with the meanness or lies. He can't seem to see it, or care how hurt I am. And the newfound shame and embarrassment that you experience as a result can prevent you and your family from reaching out for the support you need. There were times he used my weaknesses to get me back.
I want to leave but have no place to go. Remember what I was saying about reading into secret messages from him? But, it was a come clean moment with what I had felt for quite sometime and had began to fester intense resentment inside me. I to am deeply in love with an alcoholic. He has to hit absolute rock bottom. I wish I could just up and leave but something is keeping me here. This is not minor at all — it says much about how little he values your happiness and wishes.
He starts drinking before we even go to the restaurant and continues long after. Oh well if he does and if you choose to go this route, that is the attitude you must take. I am just waiting for the day that I can walk away and never look back. One year on I am still raw, still in love with someone I cannot be with and exhausted. We are starting marriage counseling May 1 because I get mad and build up walls and he avoids discussions and drinks too much. Only thing i have not done was reach out to his family. But if you do leave in a hurry, take them with you if you can.
Just wanted to see what would happen if he drank. Blamed both are drinking on our divorces. He has never physically hurt me, belittled me, or our children. He can never remember a conversation the next day. Second, alcohol is an excuse to cover up violent behavior. I feel as though the only way to make my point is to separate. In the last 3 years my husband has drank a lot.
He has been horrid to me and still denies he has a prob. We have 3 beautiful children together that absolutely adore their Dad. I had to fly out to get him. I have to put my kids first but i feel like the bad guy. That he became a 5th child to me and not my husband. Al non is a great start.
He has drank since we met, and we have been married for almost 16 years now. My heart hurts Every time I try to kick him out, I honestly can not picture a life without him, and can not picture him with anyone but me and vice versa. Why does he keep doing this to me? I would so much appreciate any guidance you can provide. I know he wants me out. Jenni This made me weep,,,my Husband is a drinker and made my life a misery and we only Wed December last year. I am at my absolute wits end and do know what to do for my baby and myself.