If he took a low paying job just to make you happy likely most of this salary would go to childcare. I find myself very resentful at times as he can be insensitive with his words on occasion. I just hate seeing him so unhappy, and the fact that he is withdrawn. Please read through the article and the comments below it to gain insight into the very difficult issue. But I keep struggling even though I am exhausted. He plays this game: I applied for four jobs today….
I'm here with him because I want to be not because I need to be. Any views and opinions expressed are not necessarily shared by GoodTherapy. I love my husband, but his negative attitude and victim mentality is grinding me down. Everyday Monday to Sunday just enough to buy nappies and 4 years into this he lays around at home watching tv and doing nothing. Yes- he is working hard on our action movie but there are other film makers whom also work to make their dreams come true. He's a great guy all around but we're definitel on shaky ground right now.
He is unemployed now, and I work full time to provide for the family. Hope both our wives get jobs soon. I work a dump job, do all the cooking, pay all the bills, take care of son. My family and other friends are somewhat critical of the situation, thus we avoid them where possible. He prefers to be homeless. I graduated in May 2014 and we started dating shortly after. The truth of the matter is that unemployment is not what defines you or your partner completely.
Doing it in the evening is key. Marriage is for better or worse and right now you're struggling with the financially worse part of it. For moments of extreme anxiety, try spending five or 10 minutes doing super-sets. You have to take care of yourself just as much as you take care of everyone and everything else. All our money is coming from his family. Which we lived on there property in a guest house for 4 years! I just began a new job, we need my income without interruptions.
I have wanted to leave many times. I have no idea what purpose this will serve. Please get out while you still can. We have now been here 7 months. And I was trying to be supportive and let him have a vehicle to go and try and find a job. Please help if you can!! I mean, come on, at least be helpful around the house, have dinner ready when I get home, something.
My husband was laid off over a year ago. But the answer is not to sink the family. He applies for hundreds online. I am feeling pretty jaded! As they are the most import thing for me to fight for my whole life. I will never consider eating a meal knowing that my children are going without…that will never happen.
Every day is different and I am so lost. I have become depressed myself due to the weight gain, watching him waste his life and my choice to waste my own by sticking by him through all this. He still had no job. I am proud of the way he is handling it. Society that allows us to be isolated in times of struggle? I am so exhausted with my relentless pace of work I am ready to quit for health reasons, but who will pay the bills? Despite this I have started to look at returning to the classroom.
In fact it grinds you down becoming very dark and lonely. They bickered about how much sports he watched, how late he slept, how much the lawn needed mowing. I had no idea when we gor married that anythign like that was even possible, but I love my wife and stood by her, even as she tearfully admitted to herself and to me that she could never be a teacher. We are in our thirties. You are lucky you are not married to him. But she still went ahead after promising me that she will tell family we have not had a chance cos daughter has been living with us who is 26 yrs old. I also dropped out of school so I can make x amount to support us and support making our movie.